1. Think Before You Speak
Hadith:
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“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent.”
— (Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
- This emphasizes the importance of thinking before speaking and ensuring that your words are beneficial.
Quran:
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“Not a word does he utter, except that there is an observer prepared [to record it].”
— (Surah Qaf 50:18)
- This reminds us to weigh our words carefully, knowing that they are always recorded.
2. Speak Less, Listen More
Hadith:
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“When one of you is speaking, let the others listen attentively and do not interrupt.”
— (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
- Promotes listening as a vital part of respectful and effective communication.
Quran:
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“And lower your voice, for the ugliest of all voices is the braying of donkeys.”
— (Surah Luqman 31:19)
- Advises against speaking loudly or excessively, emphasizing humility and restraint.
3. Talk to the Point
Hadith:
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“The Prophet (ﷺ) used to speak in such a way that if one wanted to count his words, he could do so.”
— (Sunan Abu Dawood)
- The Prophet’s speech was concise and precise, highlighting the importance of brevity.
Quran:
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“And speak to people good words.”
— (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:83)
- Encourages speaking kindly, focusing on words that bring value and goodness.
4. Pause and Reflect
Hadith:
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“Deliberation is from Allah, and haste is from Shaytan.”
— (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
- Advises pausing and reflecting before acting or speaking, as haste often leads to mistakes.
Quran:
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“Do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge. Indeed, the hearing, the sight, and the heart—about all those [one] will be questioned.”
— (Surah Al-Isra 17:36)
- Reflecting before speaking ensures you do not spread falsehood or act without understanding.
5. Humility and Restraint in Speech
Hadith:
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“The strong person is not the one who overcomes others by strength, but the one who controls himself while in anger.”
— (Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
- Controlling your speech, especially when emotional, is a sign of strength.
Quran:
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“And speak to them with gentle speech that they may remember or fear [Allah].”
— (Surah Taha 20:44)
- Emphasizes calm, gentle, and thoughtful communication, even with those holding differing views.
6. Avoid Useless Talk
Hadith:
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“Part of the perfection of one’s Islam is his leaving that which does not concern him.”
— (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
- Teaches us to avoid speaking about irrelevant or unnecessary matters.
Quran:
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“They will have [success] who turn away from ill speech.”
— (Surah Al-Mu’minun 23:3)
- Praises those who avoid meaningless and harmful words.
7. Control Your Anger
Hadith:
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“If one of you becomes angry, let him remain silent.”
— (Musnad Ahmad)
- Emphasizes silence during anger to prevent harmful words or regretful actions.
Quran:
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“And when they are angry, they forgive.”
— (Surah Ash-Shura 42:37)
- Encourages forgiveness and restraint in speech when angry.
8. Use Kind and Gentle Speech
Hadith:
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“Make things easy for the people, and do not make things difficult for them, and give them good tidings and do not repel them.”
— (Sahih Bukhari, Sahih Muslim)
- Reminds us to use kind words that inspire hope and positivity.
Quran:
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“And speak to people with words of kindness.”
— (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:83)
- Kind speech fosters good relationships and spreads harmony.
9. Avoid Backbiting and Gossip
Hadith:
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“Do you know what is backbiting? They said: Allah and His Messenger know best. He said: It is to mention about your brother that which he dislikes.”
— (Sahih Muslim)
- Strongly condemns backbiting as it causes harm and discord.
Quran:
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“And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it.”
— (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:12)
- Allah compares backbiting to consuming the flesh of a dead brother to show its severity.
10. Speak Only What is Good
Hadith:
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“A good word is charity.”
— (Sahih Bukhari)
- Even small, positive words have the power to benefit others and count as a good deed.
Quran:
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“And speak to them noble words.”
— (Surah Al-Isra 17:23)
- Noble and respectful speech reflects good character.
11. Lower Your Voice
Hadith:
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“The most hated of men to Allah is the one who is most quarrelsome.”
— (Sahih Bukhari)
- Avoid raising your voice in arguments or conflicts, as it creates hostility.
Quran:
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“And lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys.”
— (Surah Luqman 31:19)
- Allah instructs us to speak in a calm and measured tone.
12. Keep Promises and Fulfill Trusts
Hadith:
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“When a man speaks a lie to make people laugh, woe to him, woe to him.”
— (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
- Honesty and trustworthiness in speech are integral to Islamic character.
Quran:
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“O you who have believed, fulfill [all] contracts.”
— (Surah Al-Ma’idah 5:1)
- Honoring commitments includes being truthful in your words.
13. Stay Humble in Speech
Hadith:
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“He who has, in his heart, an atom’s weight of pride will not enter Paradise.”
— (Sahih Muslim)
- Pride in speech—boasting or belittling others—is a harmful trait to avoid.
Quran:
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“And do not turn your face away from people in arrogance, nor walk in pride on the earth. Indeed, Allah does not like the arrogant and boastful.”
— (Surah Luqman 31:18)
- Humility in speech and behavior is highly valued in Islam.
14. Apologize and Reconcile
Hadith:
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“The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best among you to my family.”
— (Sunan Ibn Majah)
- Apologizing and reconciling with kindness fosters better relationships.
Quran:
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“The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.”
— (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:10)
- Reconciling disputes and mending relationships are priorities in Islam.
15. Avoid Arguments and Quarrels
Hadith:
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“I guarantee a house in Paradise for one who gives up arguing, even if he is right.”
— (Sunan Abu Dawood)
- Giving up unnecessary arguments reflects wisdom and humility.
Quran:
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“And argue with them in a best way.”
— (Surah An-Nahl 16:125)
- When disagreements arise, handle them with grace and respect.
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